Moving To Mobile??

What a nice wknd.  My husband took yesterday off also.  We went to the local zoo, we got our taxes done and we went to Spaghetti Factory.  The last time we went there, I almost thought I wouldn’t go back  because with the gluten-free noodles they use; my dish was really dry..the Brown Butter/Mizithra just did not stick to them at all.  But this time, I talked to the waiter who suggested extra Brown-Butter and I am so back!  It was delicious again.  I do wish restaurants would use the gluten-free Spaghetti or Angel Hair verses the Penne pasta sometimes, but I’m guessing the Penne is cheaper for the restaurant business.

We also looked at a mobile home and my husband even let me give the realtor my card and told him the price range we would consider.  Yes, I am trying to talk him into moving to a moble home park.  We have talked many times of retiring at Leisure World when I am 55 but that is not for 7 more years.  Here’s the thing; if you’ve been reading my blog, you know I have a lot of medical/health issues.  I also am and enjoy being a recluse (but that’s another story) and I don’t get out much.  I really like the idea of being in a community atmosphere with a pool and more people around and maybe even a few activities once in a while.  Who knows?  I may even meet some friends.  I like the idea of walking around the community (within its walls) and feeling safe and close to home.  It may get me out of the house a little bit more which would be good for me.  Plus, I like to think it would be smaller then our house.  While my husband disputes that last sentence because he says most of the mobile-homes we have seen have more square footage, they feel more compact to me in how they are situated.  We would probably go from a four bedroom to a three and it would just feel smaller, plus, the space rent, after paying the house in full, would be low enough, to continue to be covered by whatever I get, should anything happen to my husband first, God Forbid.   We would probably only live in the mobile home park for the next 7 years or so until I am of age to go to Leisure World.

Back to the health reasons though, I want to live in this type community while I am able to enjoy it.  With my health problems and the fact that my kidney transplant won’t last forever; I am afraid in or around 7 years; I may be on the transplant waiting list or something and usually your health doesn’t get better as you get older; it gets worse.

Living in Orange County, there haven’t been to many stories of mobile homes having been blown over in wild weather, burned down in fires, or even knocked down by Earthquakes.  Yes, it could happen but I suppose the same could happen in my house.  I cannot live in fear of natural catastrophes all my life.  God is in control on those things.

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Why I Could Never Be A Hoarder

I used to have a friend that was a Hoarder before the word became a term.  She was raised that way.  My mother, on the other hand, raised us like we lived in some model home.  We even had a Living Room we were not allowed to use except on occasions and when company came to visit and two antique chairs that mom kept the plastic covers on.  I remember constantly asking her why it was called a “Living Room” if we weren’t allowed to use it for Living.

Anyway, forward to now.  I am not the best housekeeper.  As a matter of fact, I hate doing it.  I know..I know.. I am supposed to have pride in my house and all that and I do keep it presentable for the most part.  But, we live in the house.  One thing I could never understand and still don’t is why we have to quickly rush around and sweep, vacuum, dust, shove things in closets, etc. before someone comes over.  Sheesh, haven’t they seen how I live before?  Why do we alway’s have to put on some display for the public or friends to make them think we are someone we aren’t; just so they will continue to accept us?  (More of that topic in another post, maybe.)

Anyway, I love the shows ‘Hoarding’ and ‘Hoarding-Buried Alive’.  I think it’s sad and ridiculous when the authorities make the residents leave the same night they visit; after the people have been living in their hoard/filth/whatever for years.  What’s a few more nights while you set the date up to start cleaning?

From watching those shows and from visiting my ex-friend, I have come to the conclusion that I could never be a Hoarder.

The first reason is:

I Hate Bugs!  If I saw a Cockroach in my house.  I would freak out.  Those things are nasty. (I lived in an apartment once that had those..next door to a Hoarder but there’s another post some day.  Hey.look post ideas are coming with this one.) I freak out at a Spider in my bathtub or on the floor and if it touches one of my things.  I don’t think so!

The Second Reason is:  I can’t leave things in the middle of the floor to long.  Unless it is in a room I don’t use, it drives me crazy.  I get nuts when my husband leaves newspaper on the floor after reading them and I wind up picking them up.  I can’t imagine living in a house and walking on things that should not be walked on.  Plus, what about my poor animals?  My cat and dog don’t want to be sliding and falling on stuff all over the place.

Thirdly- The Bathroom!  The smells!  Oh my gosh, When people hoard so much and their bills get so high that their water gets shut off..No, Thank You.  Just the smells of myself in the restroom are sometimes enough to drive me out..not to mention those of my husband.  I am constantly telling him to use air freshener.  Most of the Hoarders are becoming insensitive to smell.  I don’t even like the idea of having to do a stool sample for the doctor.

Finally, I love to give to people.  Yes, I know, some Hoarders also give to people.  But, they dumpster dive or they buy things with the intent to give to people and never do.  I put boxes together for fire, earthquake, etc. victims and I also make bags for the homeless.  So, a lot of times, I will put my unwanted clothes and maybe a few other items in those boxes for someone else to enjoy.  I donate my unwanted books to the local library usually and take things to the Goodwill for the tax write-off.  In this economy, the Goodwill seems to be the new mall from what I saw of the parking lot.

I also like the philosophy, ‘Out With The Old, In With the New.”

I do feel sorry for some of the people on the Hoarders shows that really don’t want the help.  The ones that are being forced by their families to clean up their houses (not forced by the city but by the family), the few that don’t have bugs and feces around the house, and it isn’t affecting their children or animals who live in the home.  In my mind, it’s their house and if their hoard  is limited to the inside and isn’t bothering anybody outside, let them live the way they want.  Make them clear a path for an emergency crew but that should be it.

 

Finish Organizing

I still haven’t finished putting everything back since the housekeepers came.  That’s the thing about having a housekeeper, even for a day.  You have to move everything.   Especially the first time.  plus,  one thing I didn’t like…  You know how they ask you, “How often do you clean?” but not in an innocent way.  It comes off more like, do you ever clean?, have you cleaned in the last century? do you know how to clean?  I don’t need your guilt tone lady..we hired you to clean for a reason.  The holidays had passed, I’d had surgery, I’d been sick.  I don’t need to explain my entire life to you and why I hadn’t cleaned.  Sheesh.

Anyway, January has been a horrible month for migraines but it’s February now so lets hope things get better.  Maybe since the weather is supposed to warm up.

I’ve already come to the conclusion there is no way I could live in a cold climate.

Weathering The Opposite

My husband is constantly hot.  I swear, the man sweats in the shower.  It doesn’t help that we are having the hottest Summer on record.  Now I hear, “It’s hot, I think I’m dying, The heat is poison,”…blah, blah, blah.

I don’t like humidity mainly because it gives me bad headaches as I am a headache/migraine sufferer anyway.  I don’t like when it gets so hot you sweat after 5 minutes of doing nothing.  I admit I do get a bit lazy in the heat.   However:

I like real air!  I prefer open windows  to fans.  I prefer driving my car with the top down as often as possible when it’s hot.  It’s even fun to sit in the hot car with the top down and talk on my cell phone.  I bitch and whine when it’s cold.  I don’t like the cold.  I don’t like freezing and having to layer on clothes and blankets all day.  I get Reynaud’s periodically anyway.  I don’t like my extremities turning numb.

So, my husband takes himself to plenty of movies just to get away from the heat and he has taken me with him shopping.  Yes, I did find a shirt that fit.  I also ordered quite a few things mail order but I digress.

Our house does not have air-conditioning and that has already been an interesting discussion a few times.  We may get a bigger fan that can be moved around or if my husband decides on a room fan, I will just try to stay in other rooms when he is using it.

It’s very interesting living with someone who is the complete opposite of me on this issue.

How You Really Live

Do you clean before people come over?  Why do we do this?  My mother used to keep the house like we lived in a magazine.  It drove me crazy.  We never even used the Living Room except at Christmas or when guests came over.  I remember I used to ask all the time why it was called a ‘Living Room’ if nobody ever lived in it.  Plus, we had two antique chairs that we weren’t allowed to sit on.    I guess that’s why I’m not the perfect house-keeper.  I want to be able to live in my house.

Before I got married, I don’t remember cleaning the house every time someone came to visit, my friends know how I live.  Heck, most of us may leave some dirty dishes in the sink once in a while (I don’t usually do the dishes until the end of the day) and we can’t alway’s get around to dusting and vacuuming.  I believe in keeping the toilet presentable but other than that..does the bed have to be made and do all the papers that are strewn on the tops of tables or the top of the t.v have to be picked up?  I am not saying to have your house looking like a Hoarders (God Forbid) but why are we afraid to be ourselves?  Why do we put on a front so others believe we live perfect every day?  Do we really think they live perfect every day?

My husband has me clean the house before a Cleaning Lady comes.  Yeah..I know.  Not the basic dusting, vacuuming, etc..but clearing of everything because he wants it to look presentable and that way she/they won’t have to move anything.  He is lenient with me on the house-cleaning but I know he feels I could do more since I “don’t have a job.”  The truth is I stay at home due to health issues.  Most are getting a bit better but should I get a job  I would not get disability, so I am getting money and with all my health issues I could not hold a full-time job.  Being at home is a job.  We may not have children but I do take care of the house and the animals which are jobs in themselves.  He likes to tease me a lot; but in some ways he is quite happy I’m home to do things around here.

Back to the topic at hand… I really don’t believe in cleaning before people come over.  I mainly do it because my husband (and society) worries so much about what others think.   I am proud of who I am and people should accept me for that.  That includes the way I live and the way I keep my house.

Your thoughts?

Bad Sale Economy

The garage sale was fun although I only made $43.00.  I enjoyed spending time with my friend and we even wore matching hats for a while.  One of the things I really enjoyed was watching and talking to the people who showed up. It must be the economy though because they were haggling from the time they showed up over $1.00 items.  Dolls marked $1.00 went 2 for 1.  A really nice mirror that started at $10.00 then went down to $5.00 and got sold for $3.00 along with my exercise mat.  I was quartering and diming most everything at the end just to get rid of it.

My friend didn’t do much better and when I visited the neighbor, she also made about $40.00; so it looks like we all made about the same amount we got in change.  I guess you could say we broke even.  Hey, I wonder if that is better or about the same odds as Vegas.  At least we didn’t lose like in State-Line.  But, we did lose some of our old stuff which was the main intention.

Then on Sunday, I went to Fantastic Sams and had my hair colored and I had to laugh when the bill came to exactly $43.00.  Sort of like a free hair color.  Not bad.

We  found all our Living Room pics at Aaron Bro’s.  They are having a sale on frames..buy one, get a matching one for a penny.  Plus, I ordered an awesome growling, Panther Poster from allposters.com. which I am going to put in one of the frames.  So, our Living Room is 90% complete.  We still need DVD/CD storage.

 

Sick & Swap Meet

Woke up feeling a bit like crap today but not as bad as I thought I  would.  It actually started Friday with the hot/cold sweats and sore throat then turned into coughing, sneezing, ringing ears, etc.    Have to be over it by Thursday to see my new Nephrologist.

My husband and I went to the Swap Meet yesterday and I got a Hula Hoop which I am looking forward to using in the back yard for exercise.  I know I will suck but it will be fun to try.  We also got some animal beds for the animals.  Firepies’ is a tent and while she is not used to hers yet, I am trying to lure her into it with catnip and toys.  I think she will like it eventually.  She keeps going in and out of it now.

We are actually looking for wall pictures but the selection was extremely slim so we may go to a larger Swap Meet next wknd.

Sold and Almost Decided

A nice older couple came and bought the sofa set last night.  We even threw in the matching large couch.  Plus, I may have found a Chaise yesterday.  It is a brown, Microfiber that will match the couch Steve chose.  I really wasn’t going to do brown or microfiber but with a colored area rug.. it should still work.  I have a few more options to call on but I really think we may just get this one and finally be done with it.  Once, I get this purchased.. I can go back to focusing on the rest of my life again.
Actually  after the Chaise is purchased, we can figure out the minor things such as side tables, lamps, etc. I may invest in some animal beds and scratching posts or things to scatter around  to deter my babies off the furniture a bit.  Of course that will be hard as they love to be with us.

I cannot believe how much of a search it’s been trying to find this.  I just know it’s going to be worth it in the long run.  Heck, I’ll probably let Petey up with me right away and totally ignore the last paragraph (well, I won’t have bought all the other stuff yet anyway) and we can just take a long nap. …Yeah…I know….I’m dreaming already.

Husband Brings Work Home

My husband is an Inspector at work.  That is his job..to inspect the work the sub-contractors or contractors do after they do their jobs; in order to make sure things have been done correctly; so they can be paid.

Then, he comes home to me.  Lately, he has been stressed.  A lot is going on at his job and a lot is going on at the house.  The house is looking really good and getting into shape.  However, the process seems never-ending now that things have started.

Anyway, he comes home.  This is what occurs..”I thought you were going to clean the floor.  Did you see the spot?  Don’t you know how to clean a floor?  There’s another spot.  You have to sweep the new floor every day.  Don’t you ever water the back or front yard anymore?, etc.etc.”   I want to snap back at him but I don’t.  That would just start a useless argument.  I’ve hinted that it would be nice if he helped but as he points out; he does work outside the house and I don’t.

We did have an agreement that I would take care of the inside and he would take care of the outside of the  house but we were both working then and he hired a Gardener.  Of course, he is spending a lot of money for this house decorating and I don’t want to piss him off right now either.  New furniture is coming (okay, we need to find it) probably next wknd..one of which is probably going to be an indoor Chaise as we are selling our indoor Living Room Furniture and getting all new.

He and I were both talking about the fact that he needs to go back to the gym again as that usually helps him de-stress and puts him in a much better mood.

My Decorating Adventure- Phase II

Tomorrow, painting begins.  This is really exciting but everything is happening so fast.  I hardly (don’t really) have time to recover and get my life/house back in order from the first phase before we are doing the next step.  But, that’s how my husband is.  when he gets his mind set on something…we get going; even when we got married.  Once the decision was made..there was no long engagement.  We had 3 months to plan the wedding.  I remember kidding around and saying, “What is this a 90-day probation?” but we had dated at least a year before that.  Originally, we were planning to go to Vegas but my mother insisted on a church wedding.  But..I digress.

The dog and I will be hanging around the back yard tomorrow and getting some sunshine.  The cat will be in the bedroom.  My husband said the fumes should not be to bad and I should be able to get in the house once in a while as most of the day should be prep work but they did say the whole thing would be done within a day and a half to two days so…As soon as Hubby gets home, I’m out of here headed to the motel and then I’ll do it all again on Wed.