Sharing To Much

Everyone has an opinion. Everyone has advice. They may have been through a similar situation but it is NOT the same. They were not married to the same man. They do not have the same disabilities as I. They are not in the same financial situation. One thing I’ve learned from this experience is not to share the finer details anymore about the issues. We are doing things our way. Yes, I said “We.” He is still my husband at the moment. Legally, we are still married. We start divorce proceedings (the paperwork aspect or the consultation or whatever) on Monday. He is supportive in that way and will continue to be. That is nobody’s business but mine!

We looked at apartments all day. We actually signed for one as far as having the credit checked. It is a cute condo. However, the more I’ve been thinking about it. I really want a one-bedroom with a back yard area for the dog. The condo had a front patio only which, would prove awkward for the dog, and it was a bit small.

Emotionally, I contacted my doctor who gave me Xanax to calm down. After one pill, I know it can be addictive. I think I may only need one a day or so. It gets me back on an even keel. I stop crying, I literally float in a euphoric fog. I also sleep. Last night I finally slept over 5 hours straight. It was wonderful!

My thoughts still go in and out as I pack. I’ve accepted it to a point. But, things won’t really hit until I move out which may not be to soon because I am finding it hard to find a one-bedroom that takes pets, with a small yard, in a decent price range. I found one will open up in mid-June. It’s 900 square feet which would be fantastic.

I’m willing to wait, if necessary. I mean..we don’t fight. Especially now I have my Xanax to fall back on. But, a month? I don’t know. The packing?..The acceptance? I am liable to forget just why I am packing at all if I wait to long.

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Pain & Credit Cards

Another bad day for headache pain.  Another day of pills and sleep. eating and water.  That’s it.  My husband came home right after work and had suggested last night and even this morning possibly doing something tonight, but it wasn’t meant to be.  Oh, I tried to get up.  I got up long enough to clean up the cat barf from the carpet this morning.  Don’t know what that was about.  I knew driving anywhere today wasn’t going to happen despite the fact I gave the dog the last of his treats this morning; but he will get lunch meat or cheese or something tomorrow.

I’ve already contacted my doctor and am awaiting authorization from the insurance on Botox treatments.  Yes, I know the side effects.  I’m willing to risk them with all this pain.  I am so tired of pain.  I don’t think I will ever have a pain-free life but I would like to lessen it.

Also, the phone kept ringing due to my Hypogammaglobulynemia and the infusions.  They have been approved.  They will last 6 hours and will be given at home.  I’ve had a phone interview.  Now, I will just have another phone call soon to set the date.  I guess I can lay in bed on those days and watch t.v. or read or play on the phone or whatever.

On another note, my Pay-Pal Credit Card arrived today.  I’ve decided to only use it for e-Bay purchases.  I will know the difference because it has my baby’s (cat) picture on it.  I think the first thing I will use it for will be a gift for my Niece who will be graduating High School in June.  So, I still have two main  credit cards technically since I consider E-Bay like a store, and a debit card.  I have a few other store cards too but I don’t use those very much.  This will be a good way to track just how much I really spend on e-Bay.

Financial & Paying For Blog?.Your Advice

I won something from e-Bay the other day. (Oh, the excitement!) It was actually the 80’s work-out outfit I told you about in my post about 80’s fashion.  Anyway, so I just had to pay as they so nicely remind me.  I click the little Pay-Pal button since that’s the only, safe way to pay.  They keep telling you that too..those silly “they”..Pay Pal People..although it may not be.  I mean, Pay-Pal People are real and how do we know all those people are real honest.  Do they all have background checks or something?  Anyone who works in the financial industry should get a background check first, in my opinion.  But, I digress.  Anyway, so I hit the button but instead of confirmation.. I get some message saying my Pay-Pal Account needs to be verified or needs to be linked to my bank account or some such nonsense because it won’t take my payment.  WHAT?  No, I am not giving you Pay-Pal people my social security number and I do not want to link you to my checking account.  I use a separate credit card for pay-pal and I pay it on time.  What is going on with e-Bay?  So, I call up Customer Service.  Luckily, it’s only like a minute wait.

Imagine when the Customer service guy, we will call him Jon, since he said that was his name, tells me this:  “You have been with us 6 years.  We have a limit you can spend and in your case it was $8,771.77.  It has nothing to do with paying your credit-card bill.  That is completely different.  You need to get verified by linking your account to your checking account or get a free, Pay-Pal Credit Card.”  He did let me pay for the work-out outfit, while I decided what to do.

First I did the math (before I or my husband had a heart attack) 6 years at $8,771,77 total = $1,461.96 year =$121.83 month  which really isn’t to bad.  Then, I had to really think about it.   I do get some really good deals on e-Bay and it mainly takes Pay-Pal.  So, I opted for the Pay-Pal Credit Card but I only used my Disability Income as income so my limit is low.  Of course, this will be my monthly limit.  I still spend less than the total limit amount a month anyway, according to my calculations, so I should be okay and like my husband said if we want to buy anything higher; we could use his Pay-Pal account.

But, here’s the ting.  I feel after 6 years; I am being penalized for being a good Pay-Pal Customer!  We should be rewarded, not forced to be linking our accounts and giving information we don’t want to give.  Just like a credit card, we should have our limits raiseed; not have lifetime limits forced upon us without our knowledge.

So: now I have a question on the same yet different topic:  Let’s talk about WordPress and free blog sites.  I love my blog.  It is another addiction.  I am on the free level.  What happens when I run out of room?  I’ve  considered paying the $18.00 a year but I want to hear from others that do it?  What exactly changes?  Is it true, my blog will definitely stay here as mine?  I don’t want to spend the money and be cut off for some reason.  I really want to hear from people that are using the pay option before making a decision.  

I appreciate any look forward to any and all responses (minus weird spam ones that have nothing to do with anything) and I thank you for reading my blogs.

Spending Habits = Book

So, I think I’ve spent to much money this month.

I was reading the Shopaholic book by Sophie Kinsella and it was so good, I had to purchase tha series.  Now, that’s wrong somehow when it is about a Shopaholic and it encourages you to buy.  Mind you, the story isn’t true, but still.  You just have to keep following her.  I did not get the one where she has a baby so that was one less book..but still.

Then, I needed food because I’ve been eating the wrong stuff lately and not reading the labels correctly and my body has been paying for the wrong crap; so I order from an online food store for some gluten-free food and the shipping costs are is outrageous.

I’ve also needed jeans since my jeans are getting to big.  I have like three sizes in the closet but not the ones I need,  and I can’t stand the lower- waist nowadays so I found some really cool, Vintage Jordache which are on the way.

So, like the girl in the Shopaholic book would say, “This is stuff I need and not just stuff I want”.  However, in my case, my husband will help me pay off the bills (amidst much bitching probably) because we don’t go allow ourselves to go into debt; so my spending habits would not make a very amusing book.

Rising Food Price Observations

So, the wknd was spent being sick and feeling blah because that’s my life.the sick and well rollercoaster but mainly the sick part.  Sore throat, coughing, headaches, sneezing stuff.  Thinking you will never get over it and not wanting to get dressed or go outside to do anything.  Then, when you finally feel well enough to go outside; you don’t know who is winded more after walking halfway around the park..you or your dog who is almost 14 years old.

Anyway, today I finally slept in until 10:30.  I did go to bed around 2 so don’t get to excited because that only works out to about 8 1/2 hours or so but still.. it was a miracle for the animals to let me sleep in that long.

Anyway, I felt a lot better today so I got my grocery shopping done and I must say I am shocked at the grocery prices now.  I spent over $2-00.00 and saved a bit over $50.00 with my card  by buying most on my list but the price of bread and meat has sky-rocketed and they don’t even have the packs of hamburger which I used to bring home and separate anymore.  Now, you have to pay for the separate ground beef or burgers, which, although on sale still makes it more expensive.

Anyway, that’s my rant or observation of the day.  I need to do dishes before bed and I think I am aiming for 1 verses two tonight so I will tune in later.

Change For Bus…Or Not

I had a Christmas post I’d written but it was in draft form and somehow had not been published so I just posted it.  Hopefully, you will not consider it to late as it  is still relevant.

Now onto today’s topic:

I do not like being lied to or taken advantage of, and I really do not like them both happening at the same time.  I consider myself to be a giving person and have been told I have a bit heart but I give too much or am to trusting and can get hurt someday.  True, one can also get hurt swimming, sky diving, driving your car, riding your bicycle or even crossing the street..but I digress.  If I should get hurt while giving to someone; it will be at least have been a blessing to have been partaking in what I believe God has called me to do.

Usually, I say a prayer over who God wants me to help before I help them although, sometimes there is not time.  Take today for instance:

As I exited the local store, a boy on a skateboard (maybe around age 16-18) approached me on a skateboard and asked if I could spare any change for the bus.  The bus stop is right across the street from the store and the bus was out at the stop.  I looked at him and said, “hmm, change for the bus?”  It seemed legit.  I dug out what I had coin-wise and gave him the change.  He skatebaorded to the bus and went behind it.  As I got in my car, he skateboarded back to the store parking lot, laughed with his friend and high-tailed it out of there..gast.  He NEVER took the bus.

Okay, it could have been the wrong bus, the bus may not have been running anymore.  Something may have happened but.. if so, why would you be laughing?.  I said a prayer of forgiveness for the boy but it is reaffirming my idea of not giving money away, and continuing on with my bags only.

 

Health & Helping

I saw my doctor yesterday as a follow-up to surgery and I am doing very well.  He actually said the pain should go away completely soon and was surprised I only needed one Vicodin while recovering.  Well, I am a Migraine Sufferer and have been told I have a very, high pain tolerance.  One doctor or nurse went so far as to tell me if I ever gave birth, I probably would not have a problem.  Guess, I’ll never know.

I helped someone else anonymously on Aidpage.com.  She had written her address on the wrong page so I simply sent a toy to her for her daughter for Christmas.  It is coming directly from Walmart and I don’t think my name will be on the label since it is being paid through Pay-Pal,  so she will have no idea who it is from.  Now, that is the way to get a Christmas Present.

I know I need to stop spending money as I am getting a bit nervous about the upcoming bill, but I do need to go to Walgreen’s for basics and I heard they are having a toy collection for Chips For Kids so maybe one more thing.  I wish I were rich and could afford to help everyone who cannot afford Christmas.  It’s my favorite holiday.  And, every day there is a new story on Aidpage.com.  It’s getting closer to Christmas yet the stories keep coming and coming.

Just like the Mushrooms in my backyard, per yesterday’s post.

 

Life’s Happenings

I am so tired today.  I tried to start my 50 grams of Protein yesterday but that didn’t even come close.  I developed a horrible Migraine Headache with nausea plus I was up all night in the restroom.  To much milk and cheese, I think.  So, excited about eating cheese again I went a bit overboard and I am Lactose Intolerant.  Even with Lactaid, I have issues.  I hope it is just the type of protein that is causing me problems and this won’t become constant because of the amount.  I don’t need constant/excessive headaches again.  They were really starting to even out.

I got a call from a Surgeon’s office yesterday saying that my referral was approved.  However, I don’t drive freeways and the office was to far away in location. so I called the insurance company and had it changed to another Surgeon who is closer to home.  I need to call today to confirm the change has been made.  I can hardly believe they actually put a rush on something!

My poor husband is going crazy at work as they heap more and more work on him but the good news is: he just got another bonus which means he already received two bonuses this year alone.  I said “Good. because another large bill is on the way.”  Yep, just the way the cycle goes round.

BEWARE of This Scam

I am writing this to warn people to be aware of these Scammers.  They are hitting everywhere and have hit our neighborhood.

Two very nice teenagers came to the door while I was standing on the porch.  They are selling children’s book sets and cookbooks.  They told me it is in order to get points so they can go on a trip to Italy and they are working in teams..boys against the girls, “Go Boys!.Yeah.”  I told them we have been burned before with these types of things and I don’t usually buy from people I don’t know.  They assure me this place is legit and rated highly by the BBB.  The book list does not have prices but they tell you it starts at $40.00.  They also tell you some of the books can be donated to a charity such as CHOC (Children’s Hospital of Orange County) and they name a few others.  CHOC gets to me because I got there, myself.  However, I am not going to spend $40.00 for a book so I ask if I can spend $20.00.  I ask if I can make a donation to CHOC so they get points.  They said it would be considered a” gift” because they don’t use the term “donation.” and I would be buying half of a book set.  They can get someone else to buy the other half.  I felt good thinking whatever book was chosen would go to a charity and wrote out a check.  They had me write the check to the actual company.  It was a bit fishy because they asked me my husbands first name and what we did for a living.  That was all I told them but I was vague.  My husband works for the Naval Base. They said they needed to know this because they get more points for career.  They actual said, “Can we say he’s in the military so we get more points?”  I said, “You can say whatever you want.”  To convince me further in the conversation..they dropped the name of Melanie and told me she had bought some of their books and really supported them.  When I called my neighbor really quickly while they were on the porch, she didn’t know what I was talking about.  They cleared that up by saying, it was not the same Melanie.  Ther is a different Melanie down the street.  Possible. I don’t know everyone in my neighborhood.  Who does?  I had them write me a hand-written receipt as I couldn’t get one from the receipt book since I didn’t buy a full order.

Needless to say, I checked the company ..MTS CIRCULATON after they left, and it is a scam.  They have tons of complaints with the BBB.  They are taking your money and not giving you your merchandise.  Plus, they ask to use your restroom and get a drink of water to get in your house.  I gave them water but my dog stood guard at the door and I got paper cups and took them outside to them.

I  went to my local Police Department to inform them what was going on and spoke with a very cute, unhelpful Policeman.  He wouldn’t even take a report because he hears this complaint every day.  He says these teens are being dropped off  in neighborhoods to do this and usually stay in the same neighborhood for a bit before moving on.  They do get a few of them when they are in the act because most have warrants already and you need a permit in CA to sell magazine, books, etc. door-to-door.  However, otherwise there is no recourse.  I supposedly entered into a legally binding contract by making the check to the actual company (is it an actual company?) and unless my merchandise was not received or something; there was no way to get it back.   It is not so much the money issue for me as it was just letting the police know that these teens are in the neighborhood preying on unsuspecting people.

We need to find a way to stop these scamming, lying companies!  This one is

MTS CIRCULATION

4428 N. 12th Street

Phoenix, AZ.  85071.USA

602-264-1721

www.mtscirc.com

Bad Sale Economy

The garage sale was fun although I only made $43.00.  I enjoyed spending time with my friend and we even wore matching hats for a while.  One of the things I really enjoyed was watching and talking to the people who showed up. It must be the economy though because they were haggling from the time they showed up over $1.00 items.  Dolls marked $1.00 went 2 for 1.  A really nice mirror that started at $10.00 then went down to $5.00 and got sold for $3.00 along with my exercise mat.  I was quartering and diming most everything at the end just to get rid of it.

My friend didn’t do much better and when I visited the neighbor, she also made about $40.00; so it looks like we all made about the same amount we got in change.  I guess you could say we broke even.  Hey, I wonder if that is better or about the same odds as Vegas.  At least we didn’t lose like in State-Line.  But, we did lose some of our old stuff which was the main intention.

Then on Sunday, I went to Fantastic Sams and had my hair colored and I had to laugh when the bill came to exactly $43.00.  Sort of like a free hair color.  Not bad.

We  found all our Living Room pics at Aaron Bro’s.  They are having a sale on frames..buy one, get a matching one for a penny.  Plus, I ordered an awesome growling, Panther Poster from allposters.com. which I am going to put in one of the frames.  So, our Living Room is 90% complete.  We still need DVD/CD storage.

 

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