Tribute To My Sister

I wish I could give an award to a commenter because my sister actually commented and it totally surprised me.  I always knew she read this blog but it means a lot to me that she commented.  (Just don’t tell/remind my other sister that I even have this blog, please.  Yeah, I technically/physically have another sister but we have lost contact..her choice, long story..probably not a long story but one I don’t wish to get into now.)     Anyway, this post is about this sister whom I guess I can call ‘Lady’ since it’s better than Sis and part of her sign-on.  She knows why I won’t use the first part.

Lady and I are 8 years apart in age.  She is 8 years older than I.  We have always been close but have had our times.  She is the one that I actually grew up in the house with as there is a major age gap in the rest of my siblings ages and I.  (My brother is 20 years older than I and the other sister I speak of is 15-18 years older than I),  anyway, Lady and I have been through a lot of interesting things together.  My parents would take a lot of trips  for the wknds and leave Lady and I alone.  During one of these trips, I started my period.  (Now if you’re a man..you may or may not want to continue reading but I promise this isn’t gross.)  I was in the truck with Lady and her boyfriend and I whispered in Lady’s ear that we had to stop at the store and don’t tell J. why.  J. was being funny and refused to stop until Lady told him why so she had to.  Anyway, when we  got to the store, I freaked out and did not want tog o in because I did not want to go to a male register clerk.  Guess what?  The store only had male register clerks.  I was terrified they would say something.  Lady told me they couldn’t, it was illegal.  I remember grabbing something off the shelf and staring straight at the guy daring him to say something.  I would have run out of the store.  It’s funny but do you ever notice that women or men when buying things for their women never buy just that item but usually have to buy Coke or Chips or some other item they didn’t even come for too?  It’s a fact of life but it’s the embarrassment factor that still kicks in.  Yet, most of us have no problem buying toilet paper.

Lady was there the first time I got drunk after I broke up with my first boyfriend,   She used to kick me out of her room when I wasn’t even in it; I was standing in the doorway being the annoying, little sister, she and I would wake each other up on Christmas morning then wake up my parents so we could open presents and one year we got matching stuffed dogs.  I still have mine and if she ever comes across hers; I still want it.  Plus, one year she gave me a box of rocks for Christmas and I started freaking out and crying until she gave me my “real” present.  Lady and I would also sing songs while she played guitar as we both have that talent; and the best times ever is singing the song ‘where Have All The Flowers Gone” by Peter, Paul and Mary. together.

Now, that mom has passed away; Lady is my rock and the sister I’ve always wanted and needed.  I can share things with her I didn’t think I could before and she is understanding.  Our relationship is stronger now.

Unfortunately, a lot of our sisterly breaks were caused by my mother. (not the one above referring to my other sister, though.)

I love you Lady, and I am glad we are sisters and alway’s will be!  Thank you for reading and commenting on my blogs and thank you for being you.

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Computer Is Controlling Me

I could read Blogs all day which means I also add people to follow.  If I continue with this trend I don’t know how I will catch/keep up with all the Blogs I find so interesting and still be able to post on mine so.. I’ve decided I will take one day and read an entire or at least this years entries of one new Blog I’ve started following (or at least try to do so in a day) as well as check the ones I have on my Blogroll, so I can get to know them better.  Then, I may start alternating a few Blogroll people.  I haven’t really decided on the 2nd part yet.

I love WordPress but I can see how it can become so addicting.

Plus, between Facebook, WordPress, E-mails, an interesting virtual life thing I’ve joined, etc… I need to make time for house-work.  Yesterday, I actually turned the computer off and got some things done.

Unfortunately, that may be how I will need to monitor myself for a bit.

In my opinion, this is when technology is starting to control us which could be a very bad thing.

Blogging Then And Now

When you started blogging (if you can remember that far back?), what was your goal?..aside from to Blog, that is?  Was it to have 100 Followers..collecting them like shells or rocks or pens or whatever else it is you like to collect?, Was it just to blog to keep in touch with family and close friends completely forgetting the idea that the whole internet world can read what your writing if you don’t make it “Private”? (and you don’t),  Was it because you like the idea of typing/writing/sharing your thoughts on whatever to anyone anonymously knowing anyone can read it and having their input in hopes that maybe it will help you sort things out; plus, you can get into the minds and lives of new people that way..also, along the same lines you know that others just might be going through the same thing and can empathize? (that’s me)

Go back to that day you wrote that first blog (if you remember) and the reason you began.  Now go to now.  Has your life changed?  Have your thoughts on blogging changed?  Do you have Followers now?  How does that make you feel?  Do you feel like a Celebrity..or is it sort of like, “Hey, I’ve evolved.  Somebody likes me now.  Look at all these people who actual care about what I have to say?”  I hope you’re not becoming conceited.  “Yeah, people have alway’s like me.  I’m the best of all time.  I’ve won 4 awards and I have over 100 followers.  I should win the Pulitzer Prize!”

I appreciate my followers and I thank them very much.  I cannot reciprocate to every one.  I like to check the blogs I follow every day or so and if I follow to many at one time,  I may never post on mine.   I value the feedback of all who comment whether I respond to the comment or not; except the strange, spam, sex-types comments which you won’t see on the main page because I’ve already deleted them.  Nothing like th e fun Spam folder, huh?

I  have grown a lot since I started this Blog and in the process I am starting to get healthier too; so now some of the topics are getting a bit more fun.  I look forward to even more of that in the future.  Somehow, I think blogging is better than therapy which sort of ties into my next topic.

Followers and Blogging

Today I want to talk about Followers.

  Do you Follow people Blogs because they are your friends or friend of friends?  Do you Follow people’s Blogs because you find them interesting and do you look for people who have something in common with you?  I tend to look for people whom I have something in common with.  A certain lifestyle.  Some of the same moralistic beliefs as well as whatever the main topic is of which I was interested..Depression, ADD, etc.. whatever the Blog is about at the time.  I also follow close friends blogs.  I once followed the wife of my husband’s friends Blog because I really wanted to try to get to know her better but alas, her life is far from mine in all aspects.  Which bring me to my next topic..

 When you decide to stop following..do you ever give the Blogger advanced warning?  I have private blog on another site and I had made the mistake (before making it Private) of explaining before leaving why I was going to end the communication with whoever.  Most were okay with it but some would get totally offended!  We are strangers so that is just ridiculous.  I did not degrade anyone in any way.  I may have told someone that I did not agree with their lifestyle so it would not work for me but please…

  Anyway, What are some of the reasons you stop following Blogs?  Do you get tired of them after a while as time goes on and their content changes?  One reason, I finally stopped following my husbands, friends, wifes, Blog is because after a while it felt as if I was just following it because of who she was.  When I did make a comment to her on Facebook about her blog she never said anything plus she knows I have a Blog and as far as I know she never once looked at it.  If she see’s this now, I hope she understands. 

 I now stop following Blogs when I realize the blogger and I just don’t have enough in common or when I discover something I had not known about their lifestyle that I do not believe in, etc..  On WordPress, I simply disappear into the masses with no forwarning..one less Follower on your list.  I think of Followers as my friends and if I choose to Follow you, your Blog will probably make my Blogroll.