Semi-Relieved

I am in shock over what I found out today and I am a bit relieved and a bit not.  I had a long conversation with my Ex’s Ex-Girlfriends Mother.  Let me go back in case you haven’t been following.

I am writing a book about an abusive relationship I was in for about 4 years or more.  This took place many years ago.  At the time, he had a girlfriend prior to me who was still a big part of his life because they had a child together.  l am still in fear of this man and want/need to know where he is at present as I write my book.  Maybe in one way it will give me a conclusion for the book.  I remembered the name of her father and found his number.  I called yesterday and his Caregiver had said to call back today or he would call me.  I could not wait so I called back and her mother answered the phone.  Her mother remembered having a conversation with my mother once.

Suffice it to say, their daughter, (His Ex at the time)  is back with him and they live not to far from me.  Actually, close to the hospital I go to about every 3 months.  Apparently, he is still not working and she supports him.  He does not have a car.

She said I should not worry as he has probably forgotten who I even am; but she does not know him like I did.  His daughter wants nothing to do with him and calls him by his first name.  She and her husband practically raised his daughter (their Grand-Daughter) and she has a degree in psychology now.  I hope I didn’t make a mistake asking her if she would ask her Grand-Daughter to let me know if  he should ever die but it is something I would really like to know.  She said she and her husband are devastated that her daughter took him back.  I trust and pray that she will not mention to her daughter that I called.

Continuation of Ex Search Post

After 2 wrong numbers and calling Information ( I haven’t called them in years..almost forgot that number. HA!) I finally found the correct number for the father of my Ex’s Ex-Girlfriend.  I reached his Caregiver who took my information and said he will call me back.  I hope he is okay enough to remember who I am talking about.  I may need to find where his daughter is to get a hold of her although I really do not want to go that route if I don’t have to.  But, the first step is taken and I do feel a bit relieved.

I made it to the Lab today so I can now schedule the CT Scan soon.  I also went to Starbuck’s which I alway’s do after labs to treat myself after a rough morning then to Fresh-&-Easy which just opened in our area.  It’s a bit smaller than most of the others and I wasn’t overly impressed with their Vegetarian selections but they do have some really good things I’ve never tried and I love that it’s close.  One thing I don’t like though is doing my own bagging of groceries.  I did not choose to go shopping to be my own Bagger.  What are we paying employee’s for now?

Finding Ex Information

While at the Therapist today, I was talking to her about my book and the fact that I am still freaked over my ex and I would really like to know if he is even alive or around here.  She had just said something about praying about finding a way to find him should that be what God wants when it suddenly hit me.  He used to have a girlfriend prior to me whom he had a baby with.  As a matter of fact, she kept visitation away from him as long as we were together due to him not working and that was the reason he was thrown in jail the times he was.   I think the name of her father popped in my head while at the Therapist.  I am going to see if I can get a hold of her father in order to get the information I need.

I know she herself, is now married or she was a long time ago however, and after we (my ex and I) split up she wanted nothing more to do with me.  It was really weird because she even called my mother once but although I did send her one letter she never responded.  And she had sent me letters while in the relationship telling me terrible things he had done to her.

Anyway, I can only pray her father is still alive and has the information I need.  I found a # for an office in his career field and in his name which I may try calling tomorrow to see if it is him.

Funny, but I am afraid to put to much out in public due to fear.

 

Also, tomorrow I am hoping to go to the Lab as I cannot get the CT-Scan done until I get the Labs done.   I sure hope my stomach/head holds up this time as I really need to get checked out soon.