Relationships and Porn

Apparently, my last title for this annoyed some people so I have changed the title.  This is my view on this subject only. It is still the same view so I know I will still get the same objections however, this post is now more generic based.  So, now I guess if I offend anyone..it can be everyone and not just women.  You have a right to your opinion, but please keep it civil and polite.  Thank-You.

So, my husband came home from work yesterday and announced that he and some work friends were planning on going to a Strip Club today or as he termed it a “Nudie Bar.”  I said, “Good.  What’s the occasion?”  He said, “No occasion.  One of the guys brought it up and I wanted to go.”  I’ve been encouraging him to spend more time with his friends and if that’s what he wants to do once in a while, it doesn’t bother me.  He doesn’t get it from me as often as he should with my health problems and when he goes to those places he just comes home happier.

One of his friends or both were supposed to call him with the time to meet, but, as we waited for the phone to ring, I was informed that one of the men would be lying to his wife as to where he was going, and the other said his wife would probably have a fit about his going but he would still go.  Needless to say..we waited..and waited…and waited…to no avail.  My husband was stood up.  I went to the store (two stores actually) and made sure my husband had some alone time with the computer.

Which bring me to my next point.

Don’t you know there are laws of things that can and cannot be done in those places?  Do you really think your spouse/significant other goes to those places to pick up women/men?  Can you honestly say you never look at another man/woman other than your husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend and find them attractive..maybe even more attractive physically then the one you are with?  For the woman, would your husband/boyfriend dancing the way the men do in Chip-N-Dales turn you on as much as the real thing?  and who do you think you are going home with?..the Chip-N-Dales guys won’t give you the time of day.  It’s the same with the Nudie Bar places the guys go in.  What’s the big deal?

I had a friend quite a few years ago who came to me panicking at the thought of her fiance having a Stripper at his Bachelor Party.  They were in a big argument over this and she actually said she did not trust him.  I told her the Stripper was not allowed to do the things she was thinking,  plus, whatever happens at the Bachelor Party was none of her business since it was his last night of his celebrating being single.  She really did not have the best reputation herself.  Needless to say, I do not know how the Bachelor Party ended up but, the marriage took place and has already ended.