House Decorating Continues

I have to go get some paint samples for the Living Room and tomorrow night we have some people coming to give estimates.  We are hoping to get that done this wknd.  The paint needs to be beige or brown to go with the new floors.  What sucks is..I just got done putting the CD’s away but now I have to take them all down again since we are having the painting done.  Oh well, I can focus on getting my Library back together.

The Library is my special room and my favorite room in the house.  It is so cool now that it is the way I want it  I still need to get two matching chairs, I think.  I haven’t decided if I want to keep just the one.  I also need to work on shredding mounds of crap in the closet but as long as it stays in the closet until I get it accomplished, it looks great!  I even ordered a really cool, (I hate the word, “cute”) Cat Rug to go in there as an accent piece.

We need to get a Runner for the hallway and an Area Rug for the Living Room, but first we need to get the room painted and figure out the furniture.  In the meantime, I have set up my Exercise Mat on the floor so Petey has something to jump on when he wants to get up and down on the sofa and he doesn’t hurt his paws on the hard floor.  Plus, he gets no traction.

We have a 4-bedroom house and my husband and I both have two rooms we can do what we want with.  Mine are pretty well finished and he says he doesn’t really care.  What he really says is he has no decorating taste or style, but that’s not true considering we pick a lot of things together and his ideas are turning out really good.  One of his rooms is pretty much Laker themed which I  help out with when it comes to gifts and things and now I know something else he wants to start collecting which will help.


Valentine’s Day & Romance


As you may have already guessed, my husband and I are not the mushy, romantic types.

When we were visiting his relatives, we sat through a movie titled ‘The Notebook’ and if it had been a theatre, I think we both would have walked out.  At the end of the movie, both of his sisters were in tears and they looked at us and asked why we weren’t crying?  I think I was almost gagging actually.  I have just not been into that stuff. A romantic book I like is ‘The Promise’ by Danielle Steele and my favorite movie of all time is ‘Gone-With-The-Wind’.  Even ‘Titanic’ is really good.  Those have some romance without all the sappiness which is just so out there and unrealistic.

For V-Day, I put up a few decorations and we went to dinner a few days ago..No, we didn’t dress up – However, I got to choose the candles or romance or blah…Just Black Angus for my Grilled Artichoke and my Baked Potato Soup.  If you like watching your spouse have cheese run down her chin while she eats soup, you could call it romantic. HA!  I got S. a few Laker’s things for his office and he ordered a few things from my Amazon Wish-List which probably won’t arrive until tomorrow since he used free shipping.

And, I started Phase 1 of the Room Change yesterday by switching out his closet so his work clothes are now in there.  It took me a few hours to get all my gift stuff out plus there was divider that was actually surprisingly easy to get out and shelves to be removed.  I am really hoping we can transfer them to a different closet so I can use them in there.  I have the Master Bedroom Closet and the poor man has had to use two separate closets in two other rooms of the house.  That would be inconvenient for most people to live that way forever and not have a closet in your own room I think; especially in a house in which you are paying the mortgage.

We live in a four bedroom house and we have sort of divided it so we each have two rooms to do what we want.  It is still our house but we have two rooms each to decorate, etc.  S. has his own Office and now Bedroom and I have my own Library and Bedroom.

I  would love to hear any comments/ opinions on this.


Love = Our Own Rooms

When my mother passed away a liitle over a year ago, I had a breakdown.  Part may have been due to overuse of my medication, part may have been due to the idea that my husband had not long before brought up the idea of having his own room.  I had never been raised that way and the thought of such a thing brought to my mind the idea that he didn’t love me and thoughts and feelings of abandonment came cerashing in.    In my mind, if your husband did not want to sleep in the same room with you, something is seriously wrong with your mariage.

Since then, I have talked to my Therapist, I have talked to my friends, I have read up on the idea on the internet and I talked to my husbands mother.

Times have changed so much since I was young.  I gave in to letting him have his own bed.  It’s been fantastic having my own bed with the animals.  And, he loves his own bed.  I don’t have to have the t.v. on all night.  I don’t have to hear him gas when I don’t want to.  He doesn’t have to worry about me waking him up with nightmares or sitting up in bed or whatever weird things I do.  I don’t jump every time the bed moves when he rolls over.  (He isn’t a big man.  I don’t even know what’s up with that.)  He doesn’t need to hear me get up 12.000 times or however many to use the restroom.  It’s a Win-Win.  I didn’t think I would enjoy it so much.  It took a while to stop my mind from reverting back to what I’d been taught and to push Satan away and to convince myself that room location has nothing to do with love.

I’m ready to take it further.  I am ready for our own rooms!  It’s what he’s wanted.  I can do this.  I am gettting excited this time.  My Coke Collection is being moved to my room.  I can paint it whatever color I want.  Closets are being re-arranged.  His dresser and clothes are being moved to his room.  We are still husband and wife.  We still love each other and he loves me even more because he will have his own room.  Most men would love to have their own rooms.